The Blame Game

Sometimes, in life, shit goes wrong. Sometimes it’s just a little wrong. Sometimes, it’s massively wrong. Anything from a pen that just ran out of ink, to someone dying. It’s life. It happens. I know so many of you who will read this will say to yourselves, ‘Well DUH!’ I would too, if I wasn’t the one writing this. However, you’d be amazed at how many people don’t understand that life isn’t black and white. It is shades of grey. There are a minimum of two sides to every story. And sometimes, shit just happens.

A story for you. Yes, it’s sad and tragic, get over it. Back in 1991, when I was 6…almost 7 years old, my dear old dad kicked the bucket. Terrible, yes I know. Move on. At any rate. Who did I blame? My dad. That sounds harsh, but I bear no hatred towards my dad. I love him dearly and miss him. However, it’s his own damn fault. All the idiot had to do was go to a doctor every now and again, and he probably wouldn’t have died of a heart attack at the age of 43.

Do I blame any of the people who surrounded him every day? No. They are not trained medical professionals. And I’m not sure any of them had any idea that dad had a microscopic Hoover Dam constructing itself in his arteries.

The moral of this story? Shit happens and sometimes, there just isn’t anyone to blame. When that happens, you just have to accept it. And more importantly, when it’s your fault something bad happens, you need to accept that as well. You need to face your own guilt, not displace it onto someone else. Yeah, that’s easier, but it’s not right. Nor is it fair. And in a life filled with so much injustice, do you really think it’s your right to offset the scales even more? It’s not. Certainly not when the person(s) you’re blaming is/are your friend(s).

Next time you feel the need to blame someone for something, ask yourself what you did or did not do. Really think about it. Maybe you took advice from someone you shouldn’t have. Is it that person’s fault? Only if they intentionally misled you. Either way, maybe you shouldn’t take advice from someone who isn’t trained to give such advice. Maybe you should take responsibility for your own life and the things in it.

9 times out of 10, the shit that goes wrong in your life, is your own fault. The sooner you accept that; the sooner you can start improving your life.

This is the blame game:

You make a mistake –> Something bad happens–> You blame someone else–> You never acknowledge your mistake –> Behavior doesn’t change –>You make the same mistake….eventually, everyone hates you, and no one wants to talk to you.

This game is also known as “How to lose friends and alienate people.”

So! If you want to die bitter and lonely, then you keep on playing that game. If you actually want some semblance of happiness in your life, I highly recommend trying that whole self-reflection thing. You know, thinking about your own life and what you’ve done to affect the things that happen. Good or bad.

That’s my “No DUH!” advice for the moment. Enjoy!

PS: About that pen running out of ink. You should keep an ample supply of ink pens. It’s not like they’re expensive.

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